What habits do happy people have?
It’s easy to fall into the trap of just going with the flow, and letting your mind think and feel what it wants, but it’s not a good habit. Happy people don’t have that habit, and nor should you.
Your mind is like a field, and you should only think what you decide to think and think it because it’s what you want, and it makes you happy. Don’t be influenced too much by the outside world. Let’s talk about happy people.
By happy, I mean people who are genuinely enjoying life, they enjoy their job, their relationships, and waking up every morning. They are happy because they, usually, have chosen to be that way. It’s a choice.
Habits Of Happy People
Being happy and enjoying life is all about your daily choices, and the mindset you use. The way in which you view the world, and the attitude you take towards certain things. Let’s get right into it, the 15 Habits of happy people.
Maybe you’ll even want to adopt a few of these..
Habit #1 – Thinking Positively
It goes without saying, but when you meet someone who is really happy, chances are that whatever the situation, they’ll be the optimist. They’ll be thinking positively and bringing energy and joy to the situation.
It’s better for everyone involved when there’s a positive thinker, because they’ll bring motivation and the right attitude to the moment, bringing people together and making everyone a bit more comfortable.
Habit #2 – Being Friendly
One of the main habits of happy people is that they’re friendly.
They know that by being friendly, not only will they feel better, but the people they talk to and who are around them will get a bit of this happiness rub off on them, and everyone’s slightly better off.
Friendliness doesn’t cost anything, and you never know who you’ll meet who if you are nice to, could give you a huge opportunity. Maybe you’re waiting for the bus with a famous or rich person and they reward your being nice to them?
Habit #3 – Looking for opportunities
Looking for opportunities is another habit happy people have, they are on the look out for chances to do what they love, and ways to express themselves.
These opportunities could be just around the corner, you could call up a local business and ask them if they need any work doing, and that phone call could be the start of a business partnership.. you never know what opportunities are out there until you look for them.
This is one of the habits of happy people.. to stay ready for anything.
Habit #4 – Don’t dwell on the past
The past has already happened, it’s gone.
You can’t change the past, and so anything you did in the past serves one purpose, to allow you to perform/act better in the future. It serves as a teacher, as they say hindsight is always 20/20..
You can always look back on the past and analyze what you’ve done, in order to be better in the future.
But don’t dwell on mistakes. If you make a mistake, learn from it, and move on. Don’t just move on, because you’ll repeat yourself, but learn what you did wrong, why, and how to avoid it in the future.
Even better, learn from the mistakes others make as well, and try to exercise a bit of awareness and foresight in your life, to avoid making mistakes you don’t need to.
Habit #5 – Don’t focus too much on the future
The future could be anything.
Commonly at personal development seminars the question; ‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years’ is asked. The answers are varied but the fact is that whatever you say, it’s not going to be like that.
Life changes so much over 5 years, that your predicted self and your actual future self are completely different, you can’t predict what will happen, where you’ll be or how you’ll feel, but it’s the act of asking the question that helps to guide you.
This is why it’s one of the habits of happy people, it helps to focus you and guide you.. It’s more about the act of thinking about where you’ll be in 5 years, and being aware of yourself, in order to make better choices now, in the present. That’s what matters.
Happy people don’t dwell too much on the past or think too much about the future, they are focused on what’s happening now, in real-time, and what they’re doing with their lives.
Habit #6 – Empathize with people without bringing themselves down
People will always have problems, and more often than not, your friends and people around you will come to you to either talk about them, or ask advice for their issues.
This is part of life, but one of the habits of happy people is that they can give advice, and listen to people about these problems, without being dragged down by them.
They can be ‘in the middle’ and give advice without feeling bad about the person or by being dragged down by the nature of their problems. This is an important habit to adopt because if you allow people’s problems to become your problems, you’re making yourself less happy, for no good reason.
The best thing you can do to help others is to become the strongest version of yourself. Empathize with others, but don’t be sucked into their sadness too much.
Habit #7 – Help others wherever possible
Human beings naturally help one another, it’s part of who we are, but in the modern world, it’s easy to become part of the crowd and just let everything happen around you, without making the effort to help people.
One of the habits of happy people is that they try to help others more. By doing this, they actually make themselves happier as well, because they feel good for contributing to someone Else’s life, and making them feel better.
It’s a win win situation.
Habit #8 – Not depend on others
Probably one of the most important habits of happy people is that they don’t depend on others too much.
They don’t need to have others around them saying nice things or giving them things in order to feel happy, they are just happy because they are. By depending on other people you submit yourself to them, and give them control over how you feel.
This is a dangerous game to play, because if they take a turn for the worst, start feeling sad and depressed, it will reflect in how they act to you, and therefore you’ll feel worse. This is not what you want, and this is why happy people tend to not base their feelings on others.
It can be a difficult habit to start because naturally when someone says something to us that’s positive, we react in a positive way, and when someone says something negative, we react in a negative way, so it can be hard to ‘not feel’ when people say certain things, but it’s important to learn.
Habit #9 – Don’t base their happiness on money
Money is a number. It doesn’t exist in nature.
It’s a number on a screen.. did you know that only 8% of the worlds money is physical cash, the rest exists only on computers, to balance the large companies, economies and man-made systems in the modern world.
Basing your happiness on money is a fools game, because at any moment, you could lose your money, it can also be earned again, but it’s not related to your happiness.
Everything you need to be happy in life comes to you for free. You ability to think for yourself, feel, explore and experience life is all you need. Money is just a ‘need’ for modern life in order to pay bills and keep the government happy.
Habit #10 – Focus on their feelings and thoughts
What you feel right now is the most important thing.
How you feel, and what you’re thinking. What you think and feel on a daily basis in fact, is something to watch. This is one of the habits of happy people, they watch their thoughts and become more aware.
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny”.
Habit #11 – Go after what they want in life
What you want in life is what you should be working towards, one of the habits of highly successful people is that they go after what they have a passion for, and what they want to achieve.
If you have a dream, or a goal that you have always wanted to achieve, do it. Move towards it with every thought you have and every action you take daily. We’re talking about the habits of happy people here, but this is a habit of successful and wealthy people too.
Habit #12 – Put Happiness before money and jobs
Alan Watts said in one of his speeches that the most important thing is to do what you love and what you want. Ask yourself, what would you do if money were no object, how would you really enjoy spending your life.. then do that. forget the money.
If you do really enjoy what you’re doing, you’ll become a master of it, and there is always a way to turn that into money if need be. But remember, he says, that you can’t say the money is the most important thing.
You’ll be doing a job you don’t like doing, and completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing something you don’t like doing, in order to go on living and go on doing something you don’t like doing.
Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way.
Habit #13 – Try and move forward every day
If you’re moving forward every day, that is to say moving towards your goals, you’ll be happy by default. One of the habits of happy people is that they move forward every day in the direction of something they would like to do.
Humans need certain things to be happy, but one of them is that they need to feel like they’re doing something, and achieving something. It doesn’t feel good in the long-term to just stagnate and not move anywhere, there is a desire deep within us all to move forward.
By doing this, happy people stay happy, and it’s a positive loop, they feel better, so they move forward faster, which in turn makes them happier.
Habit #14 – Never lose focus on what they’re doing
What you do in the moment is the only thing you should be thinking about. Doing whatever it is to the best of your ability, and not rushing it or being distracted by other things.
It doesn’t matter what has happened in the past, or what might happen in the future, because you’re not in either of those states, or areas. You’re in the now, and you’re doing something, so do it to the best of your ability. Make sure to set goals and stick to them.
Habit #15 – Love others, but don’t neglect themselves
We need love.
Humans need to feel loved in order to be happy, and this is possible without a relationship, by having close friends and people you love around you, family etc. The point is we need love.
But it’s not just about finding love, because then if you lose the love, you’ll go back to not being happy. The habit happy people have regarding love is that they ‘behold’ the love, in the form of a relationship or a feeling, instead of ‘grabbing’ or crushing it.
This is one the habits of happy people, to love others, without neglecting themselves, and without depending on others and the love of others to be happy.
Love is a beautiful thing. It’s even more incredible when you behold it and experience it for what it is, instead of trying to furiously clutch onto it and allow yourself to be emotionally thrown around like a roller coaster.
So that’s the 15 habits of happy people, hopefully you are able to use some of these in your own life, but it’s always going to be a choice.
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